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Kevin Lowe: Have you ever achieved a milestone, a goal you've been pursuing,

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Kevin Lowe: Something that you'd been wanting for so long, and you finally achieved it?

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Kevin Lowe: You did it. You got the goal. You won the gold medal. And yet, inside, you felt empty,

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Kevin Lowe: Unfulfilled, unsatisfied.

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Kevin Lowe: And maybe you started to ask, what's wrong with me? Why am I not happy?

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Kevin Lowe: I finally achieved this goal.

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Kevin Lowe: Well, did you know that you're not alone? because studies have proven time after

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Kevin Lowe: time that the high achievers in the world,

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Kevin Lowe: Even with all of their success.

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Kevin Lowe: They feel empty. And I've been left to wonder, so what's missing?

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Kevin Lowe: What have we not been putting into the puzzle?

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Kevin Lowe: What piece are we lacking? And that is

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Kevin Lowe: Exactly what we're going to explore inside of today's episode.

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Kevin Lowe: So my friend, if you're intrigued, if you're curious, well, you're exactly where

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Kevin Lowe: you're meant to be. So with that, I welcome you.

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Kevin Lowe: It's episode 369. Hey, I'm your host, Kevin Lowe, and you are listening to Grit.

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Kevin Lowe: Grace, and Inspiration. If I think back

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Kevin Lowe: To some of my earliest memories.

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Kevin Lowe: What were we all led to believe?

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Kevin Lowe: Is that the goal was achieving success.

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Kevin Lowe: Think back to when we were little kids. It was ingrained in us to get good grades.

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Kevin Lowe: We all had to achieve an A on the report card. And as we grow older,

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Kevin Lowe: We understand that society, they view success as money.

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Kevin Lowe: In the bank,

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Kevin Lowe: High status in society. Maybe it's a fancy car in the driveway or it's achievement.

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Kevin Lowe: It's trophies on the wall,

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Kevin Lowe: Things recognizing your level of success in life.

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Kevin Lowe: But here's the problem. Success is great, but without fulfillment, what's any of it worth?

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Kevin Lowe: There are countless stories

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Kevin Lowe: Of people who were.

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Kevin Lowe: At the top of their game. I'm talking about athletes, celebrities,

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Kevin Lowe: executives, people who had it all.

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Kevin Lowe: And even at the peak of their career, when you looking at them,

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Kevin Lowe: you think, man, they got it all. I would love to have their life.

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Kevin Lowe: And yet behind closed doors, they're struggling. They hate their life. They hate who they are.

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Kevin Lowe: And so I guess you'll have to wonder.

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Kevin Lowe: But why? How could somebody who has all the money in the world,

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Kevin Lowe: they have the fame, they have the fortune, how could they not be happy?

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Kevin Lowe: How could they not be fulfilled?

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Kevin Lowe: Well, it's because of a simple truth.

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Kevin Lowe: Success is external, where fulfillment is internal.

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Kevin Lowe: So what I'm saying is.

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Kevin Lowe: Is that you can actually have fulfillment without ever reaching,

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Kevin Lowe: Quote, success. Because, well, if we're going to talk about success,

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Kevin Lowe: I believe success is different for all of us. If we're basing it on what society has told us success is.

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Kevin Lowe: Well, I can't help but believe we're headed down the wrong path in life.

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Kevin Lowe: Because I think success needs to be specific to each one of us individually.

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Kevin Lowe: Now, as we continue,

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Kevin Lowe: I'm going to speak to this as the success fulfillment gap.

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Kevin Lowe: And the important part here is how to fill that gap, to how to balance success

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Kevin Lowe: and fulfillment. What is the

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Kevin Lowe: Bridge that's going to connect the two to one another?

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Kevin Lowe: Because if we go through life continuing to believe that

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Kevin Lowe: Achieving success will.

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Kevin Lowe: Lead to fulfillment, we will continue to come up short each and every time.

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Kevin Lowe: The space in between what we've achieved and what actually truly matters to

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Kevin Lowe: us is what I'm calling the gap.

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Kevin Lowe: How do we fill the gap

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Kevin Lowe: Is the question I pose to you.

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Kevin Lowe: What do we have to do in your life to make success equal fulfillment?

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Kevin Lowe: How can we tie the two together?

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Kevin Lowe: Some of the questions that I want to ask you, to be sure that we're on the same page.

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Kevin Lowe: Because I don't know, this idea I'm talking to you about, I'm no expert in it.

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Kevin Lowe: I'm just talking it out. It's something that came up through the interviews

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Kevin Lowe: I've done, the topics I've been talking about of happiness and success and fulfillment.

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Kevin Lowe: Is this gap in between.

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Kevin Lowe: And so I guess I ask you.

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Kevin Lowe: If you've been chasing success, why have you?

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Kevin Lowe: Have you been chasing success because you were led to believe that's what you're supposed to do?

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Kevin Lowe: Do you even know what success looks like to you, feels like to you?

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Kevin Lowe: Because if you don't already know what success means for you.

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Kevin Lowe: Well, then you really don't know where you're going. Because if we don't have

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Kevin Lowe: a clear destination How are we ever going to know when we get there?

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Kevin Lowe: We get so wrapped up in chasing what we think success is.

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Kevin Lowe: As I said earlier.

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Kevin Lowe: It's lots of money in the bank.

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Kevin Lowe: It's fancy cars in the driveway. It's expensive clothes, nice jewelry.

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Kevin Lowe: All the things. And yeah, all of those are great to have, but that's not what everybody wants.

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Kevin Lowe: We're not all the same people.

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Kevin Lowe: And so therefore, success should not be the same for all of us.

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Kevin Lowe: So I guess this leads me into a question of if success does not lead to fulfillment.

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Kevin Lowe: Then what does? Well, maybe we can start by redefining success in a way that

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Kevin Lowe: can lead to fulfillment.

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Kevin Lowe: Yeah, again, we got to ditch what we think of when we think of success and we

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Kevin Lowe: have to make it personal.

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Kevin Lowe: Make it mean something to you. I want you to get clear on the definition of success.

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Kevin Lowe: Does it align with your values? Does it match who you are? Does it align with

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Kevin Lowe: the person you want to become?

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Kevin Lowe: When you define what it means,

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Kevin Lowe: Which, as an example, for myself, success is summarized.

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Kevin Lowe: In one word, and that is freedom. Freedom from financial worries.

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Kevin Lowe: Freedom from being held back, not being able to do what I want to do because

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Kevin Lowe: of limitations, whether physically, financially, emotionally even.

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Kevin Lowe: Success for me is freedom.

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Kevin Lowe: So once we can

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Kevin Lowe: Get clear on what success is for us.

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Kevin Lowe: Once you can

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Kevin Lowe: Get clear what success is for you.

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Kevin Lowe: Well, now we have something to aim for. Now, if we know where we're going,

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Kevin Lowe: how are we going to measure it to know when we're there?

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Kevin Lowe: Well, again, society has external factors measuring success?

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Kevin Lowe: You know, the things like income, accolades, promotions, awards on the bookshelf.

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Kevin Lowe: Instead, what if we start to measure

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Kevin Lowe: Success based on.

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Kevin Lowe: How you feel inside? I'm talking about things like joy, fulfillment.

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Kevin Lowe: When you wake up in the morning, you're smiling.

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Kevin Lowe: You're not stressed out.

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Kevin Lowe: You're excited.

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Kevin Lowe: Yeah, excitement.

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Kevin Lowe: That is one of the things that I feel we are all lacking and I feel like we

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Kevin Lowe: should all strive for is to have excitement in our life.

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Kevin Lowe: We should be excited about what we get to do today, each and every day.

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Kevin Lowe: That, my friend, is a clear indication that maybe you're already achieving success.

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Kevin Lowe: Just because you woke up today, excited about the day.

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Kevin Lowe: Again, success doesn't have to look like what we all have been led to believe it is.

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Kevin Lowe: I believe most importantly, it's these internal feelings.

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Kevin Lowe: I also want you to sit back and think, if you have a goal that you're chasing,

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Kevin Lowe: if you are looking to get somewhere in your life and that means that you've been successful,

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Kevin Lowe: well, I want you to be sure real quick that it aligns with who you are,

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Kevin Lowe: that it aligns with your morals, that it goes back to your deeper purpose,

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Kevin Lowe: that it serves you beyond just

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Kevin Lowe: These external factors.

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Kevin Lowe: Money in the bank is awesome. A big trophy is cool. But what is it worth if you feel empty inside?

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Kevin Lowe: I want you to be lit up on the inside even more so than on the outside.

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Kevin Lowe: So my friend, to wrap up today's episode, I want to remind you,

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Kevin Lowe: happiness is about having joy in the moment.

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Kevin Lowe: Fulfillment, it's about deep,

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Kevin Lowe: Long-term satisfaction. And well, this idea of success.

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Kevin Lowe: I believe it needs to be redefined so that it aligns with long-term fulfillment.

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Kevin Lowe: The key here is to not just achieve more.

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Kevin Lowe: But to start achieving what truly matters. Not to the rest of the world,

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Kevin Lowe: But to you.

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Kevin Lowe: You alone.

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Kevin Lowe: So I leave you with this question.

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Kevin Lowe: Are you chasing a life of success or are you chasing a life of fulfillment?

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Kevin Lowe: Which one matters more to you.

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Kevin Lowe: Success on the outside or fulfillment on the inside? Only you know

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Kevin Lowe: The answer to that question.

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Kevin Lowe: I just hope that you take the time to get real, to dig deep,

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Kevin Lowe: and uncover what truly matters to you today and for the rest of your life.

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Kevin Lowe: My friend, we only get one chance

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Kevin Lowe: At this life.

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Kevin Lowe: So why not make it count? and being sure that we're not wasting a single moment

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Kevin Lowe: chasing the wrong goals,

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Kevin Lowe: Chasing after success when.

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Kevin Lowe: In fact, we're not fulfilled. We're lacking relationships with our loved ones.

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Kevin Lowe: We're lacking time spent with them because we've been chasing this other goal,

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Kevin Lowe: trying to achieve success.

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Kevin Lowe: My friends, so many times,

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Kevin Lowe: Fulfillment, it's the basics.

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Kevin Lowe: It's the people we do life with.

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Kevin Lowe: It's having experiences It's just having a life.

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Kevin Lowe: That you love That you're excited about

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Kevin Lowe: That doesn't stress you out That doesn't get you anxious or worried No.

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Kevin Lowe: It

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Kevin Lowe: Leaves you excited.

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Kevin Lowe: And at the end of the

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Kevin Lowe: Day Just as at the beginning.

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Kevin Lowe: I hope that you smile Smile even just on the inside That, hey, you know what? Today was

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Kevin Lowe: A good day.

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Kevin Lowe: Until next time, I'm your host, Kevin Lowe and I hope today's episode maybe

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Kevin Lowe: has you thinking about your own life in a little bit different light.

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Kevin Lowe: Until next time, this is great grace and inspiration. My friend,

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Kevin Lowe: get out there and enjoy this day.

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Kevin Lowe: Start chasing what really matters and that I believe is fulfillment versus just fulfillment.

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