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Have you ever found yourself—or perhaps you’re in that place right now—feeling trapped by overwhelm, anxiety, and fear, wondering if true happiness is only reserved for everyone else? If so, today’s episode is going to teach you science-backed strategies proving that genuine joy and happiness are not only possible, but well within your reach!

Do You Need a Mental Health & Happiness Boost?

If you're craving genuine joy, battling overwhelm, or yearning for a better you, get ready—this conversation unlocks the motivational secrets behind true, lasting happiness!

Your Happiness Resources:

An Inspiring Story of Finding Happiness

In this raw and empowering episode, Tamara Zoner—a survivor of a 15-year emotionally abusive marriage—reveals how she turned rock-bottom despair into a thriving career as a science-backed happiness coach.

You’ll hear how she:

Escaped financial and emotional captivity with three young children
Used the “Passion Test” to reclaim her identity
Teaches proven techniques to rewire negativity (backed by neuroscience!)
Discovered that happiness is a muscle—not a destination

From viral COVID-era senior center workshops to her upcoming Radiant Happiness Retreat, Tamara’s story proves joy isn’t just possible—it’s teachable.

Your Happiness Roadmap:

Happiness is a practice, not a personality trait: Learn daily habits to boost your “happiness set point.”
Break free from “stuck” mindset traps: How to spot limiting beliefs (like “I have to make this work”) and replace them with empowered action.
Fun is non-negotiable: Why silly walks, karaoke, and cat videos are secretly revolutionary acts of self-care.

Make Your Happiness a Priority!

Hit Play to unlock Tamara’s step-by-step framework for creating a life you love right now!

Today’s Inspiring Guest

Tamara Zoner is a certified happiness coach, speaker, and founder of A Life You Love Now. After escaping an abusive marriage and navigating single parenthood, she combines cutting-edge neuroscience with hard-won wisdom to help others cultivate unshakable joy. A recovering people-pleaser turned empowerment advocate, Tamara now leads retreats and workshops worldwide—proving that happiness isn’t just possible, but learnable.

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Show Notes

FREE DOWNLOAD! 14 Nuggets of Wisdom for a Better Life!
Have you ever found yourself—or perhaps you’re in that place right now—feeling trapped by overwhelm, anxiety, and fear, wondering if true happiness is only reserved for everyone else? If so, today’s episode is going to teach you science-backed strategies proving that genuine joy and happiness are not only possible, but well within your reach!
Do You Need a Mental Health & Happiness Boost?
If you're craving genuine joy, battling overwhelm, or yearning for a better you, get ready—this conversation unlocks the motivational secrets behind true, lasting happiness!
Your Happiness Resources:
An Inspiring Story of Finding Happiness
In this raw and empowering episode, Tamara Zoner—a survivor of a 15-year emotionally abusive marriage—reveals how she turned rock-bottom despair into a thriving career as a science-backed happiness coach.
You’ll hear how she:
- Escaped financial and emotional captivity with three young children
- Used the “Passion Test” to reclaim her identity
- Teaches proven techniques to rewire negativity (backed by neuroscience!)
- Discovered that happiness is a muscle—not a destination
From viral COVID-era senior center workshops to her upcoming Radiant Happiness Retreat, Tamara’s story proves joy isn’t just possible—it’s teachable.

Your Happiness Roadmap:
- Happiness is a practice, not a personality trait: Learn daily habits to boost your “happiness set point.”
- Break free from “stuck” mindset traps: How to spot limiting beliefs (like “I have to make this work”) and replace them with empowered action.
- Fun is non-negotiable: Why silly walks, karaoke, and cat videos are secretly revolutionary acts of self-care.
Make Your Happiness a Priority!
Hit Play to unlock Tamara’s step-by-step framework for creating a life you love right now!

Today’s Inspiring Guest
Tamara Zoner is a certified happiness coach, speaker, and founder of A Life You Love Now. After escaping an abusive marriage and navigating single parenthood, she combines cutting-edge neuroscience with hard-won wisdom to help others cultivate unshakable joy. A recovering people-pleaser turned empowerment advocate, Tamara now leads retreats and workshops worldwide—proving that happiness isn’t just possible, but learnable.

Hey, it's Kevin!

I hope you enjoyed today's episode! If there is ever anything I can do for you, please don't hesitate to reach out. Below, you will find ALL the places and ALL the ways to connect!
Stay Awesome! Live Inspired!
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Show Transcript

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Kevin Lowe: If you've ever felt lost, overwhelmed, even frustrated at trying to regain your happiness,

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Kevin Lowe: Well, today's episode, today's conversation is going to give you the tools you

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Kevin Lowe: need to break free and create a life you truly love.

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Kevin Lowe: Our guest, Tamara's owner, she was trapped in an emotionally abusive marriage.

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Kevin Lowe: She was convinced she was stuck until, of course, she made one monumental decision

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Kevin Lowe: that would change everything.

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Kevin Lowe: Today, Tamara is a science-backed happiness coach, proving that pure joy,

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Kevin Lowe: it's not just possible, but rather it's a skill that can be learned and mastered.

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Kevin Lowe: If you, my friend, are in need of a little bit more joy in your life,

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Kevin Lowe: some happiness, you could benefit from a masterclass on happiness,

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Kevin Lowe: well, you're exactly where you're meant to be.

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Kevin Lowe: This, my friend, is episode 367. Now, as a quick reminder, if you would love

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Kevin Lowe: a little help in being sure that this year is indeed the best year of your life,

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Kevin Lowe: well, you got to go check out my free resource.

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Kevin Lowe: It's called 14 Nuggets of Wisdom for a Better Life.

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Kevin Lowe: I've created a free ebook plus an exclusive free podcast episode,

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Kevin Lowe: all designed to help you make this year the best year of your life.

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Kevin Lowe: A link is at the top of today's show notes where you can click to download,

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Kevin Lowe: or you can also head on over to gritgraceinspiration.com, the website for the podcast,

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Kevin Lowe: where you will also find a link to access that same resource.

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Kevin Lowe: It's just my way of trying to help you make today a little bit better than yesterday.

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Kevin Lowe: And of course, this year, the best year of your life.

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Kevin Lowe: With that said, I hope you enjoy today's episode.

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Kevin Lowe: Here's my interview with Tamara Zona. Hey, I'm your host, Kevin Lowe,

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Kevin Lowe: and you are listening to Grit, Grace, and Inspiration.

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Kevin Lowe: What has happened to my friends? Welcome back to the studios here at Great Grace and Inspiration.

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Kevin Lowe: Today, I have the pleasure of being joined by another amazing woman here in

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Kevin Lowe: the studio with me, Tamara. Welcome to the podcast.

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Tamara Zoner: Thank you. It's a joy to be here.

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Kevin Lowe: Oh my goodness. Well, Tamara, I've been super excited for us to get to talk

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Kevin Lowe: today and get to unpack really kind of,

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Kevin Lowe: I guess I would say it, both kind of like this personal journey and professional

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Kevin Lowe: journey that you've been on and all of this around this amazing topic of happiness.

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Kevin Lowe: I want to ask a question to kick things off today.

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Kevin Lowe: When we talk about happiness, do you think of happiness as a destination or

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Kevin Lowe: is it part of the journey?

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Tamara Zoner: It is the journey.

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Tamara Zoner: Yeah, I think there's a big problem if we think that it's the destination because

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Tamara Zoner: we're never going to get there. We're always here.

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Tamara Zoner: And so if we can just plant our feet and know that happiness is a moment to

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Tamara Zoner: moment practice, then we'll feel more of it.

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Kevin Lowe: Yeah. Yeah. I love that so much. Well, then talking about the journey is,

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Kevin Lowe: I always love to kind of go back a little bit. And so

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Kevin Lowe: I'll let you decide where we pick up your story at.

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Kevin Lowe: But what I'm curious is, is when you look back on this journey you've been on, was there any person,

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Kevin Lowe: an event, even maybe just a period of your life that you feel like was really

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Kevin Lowe: significant on getting you to where you are today?

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Tamara Zoner: Yes. Yes and yes.

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Tamara Zoner: The most significant point in my life where I feel like really where I am today

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Tamara Zoner: began is about 15 years ago,

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Tamara Zoner: where I really discovered and admitted to myself that I was not living for me.

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Tamara Zoner: I was trying to be someone for someone else.

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Tamara Zoner: And that was a glimmer. And then I continued for a few more years in this controlling,

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Tamara Zoner: emotionally abusive marriage because we had had a third child and I didn't want to be a single parent.

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Tamara Zoner: But as I had tried everything to fix the marriage, to make it better,

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Tamara Zoner: to be who we wanted, and none of it worked, I finally turned back to myself

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Tamara Zoner: and was like, well, I feel miserable.

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Tamara Zoner: This isn't working for me. I hate life.

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Tamara Zoner: I don't like me. and I'm supposed to be happy, right?

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Tamara Zoner: Because I've got children and a husband and I'm living in another country.

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Tamara Zoner: And like, ideally it should be a happy life, but it's not.

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Tamara Zoner: And so when I started to kind of dig into what would make me happy,

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Tamara Zoner: I stopped kind of the lying to myself of like, this will get better because

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Tamara Zoner: it wasn't getting better.

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Tamara Zoner: And I instead said, what do I need? now? What would make me feel happy?

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Tamara Zoner: And I happen to at the same time,

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Tamara Zoner: meet a woman who was a certified passion test facilitator.

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Tamara Zoner: And when we first exchanged business cards, I didn't know what that was.

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Tamara Zoner: I've never heard of it, but something in my whole body knew.

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Tamara Zoner: I felt like shivers and chills. Like when you just know something is about to change or happen.

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Tamara Zoner: That's how I felt when I read those words. And before I'd even taken what's

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Tamara Zoner: called the passion test, I had signed up to become a certified facilitator.

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Tamara Zoner: And it was really that process that helped me and still helps anybody I work

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Tamara Zoner: with to identify what I wanted life to look and feel like.

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Tamara Zoner: And the interesting thing for me at the time was that you make a list of 10

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Tamara Zoner: to 12 things that you want to be, do, feel, or have.

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Tamara Zoner: And my family was on that list, but the process is getting down to the top five.

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Tamara Zoner: And my family hit one of those.

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Tamara Zoner: And the rest was about me feeling authentic, about me having confidence,

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Tamara Zoner: about me having my own voice and friends because I had no friends because controlling husband.

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Tamara Zoner: And so it was really awakening for me. It was eye-opening. It was heart awakening.

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Tamara Zoner: Like, oh, I've been living this lie to try to make someone else happy who is

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Tamara Zoner: never happy and never going to be happy with me.

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Tamara Zoner: And now I get to choose something different.

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Tamara Zoner: And as, and it's a long story shortish, but as I opened to what made me feel

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Tamara Zoner: good and I stepped back into personal development and personal growth and really honoring myself,

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Tamara Zoner: I was able to gather the courage to walk away from that painful,

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Tamara Zoner: painful marriage and really step more fully into being who I am and reclaimed

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Tamara Zoner: or remembered the joyful person that I naturally am.

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Tamara Zoner: And so it was quite a process. But the reason I do this work is because I was

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Tamara Zoner: desperately unhappy, but I could remember a version of myself with some natural happiness.

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Tamara Zoner: And it was all about finding her again.

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Kevin Lowe: Yeah. Now, how long were you in this relationship before you really started

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Kevin Lowe: coming to this kind of awakening?

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Tamara Zoner: 12 years and I left at 15 years.

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Kevin Lowe: Wow. Now, how I don't even know how to frame the question of how were you able

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Kevin Lowe: to to get out of such a relationship?

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Kevin Lowe: Because obviously that takes extreme courage and strength on your part.

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Kevin Lowe: What was that like for you?

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Tamara Zoner: It was so hard, Kevin. It's so scary to be, especially as a parent, right?

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Tamara Zoner: To be a parent of three young children who I had worked on and off,

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Tamara Zoner: but we had moved from country to country. My ex-husband is French.

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Tamara Zoner: So we weren't like, he wasn't attached to the United States where I'm from.

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Tamara Zoner: And so we had lived in Asia. We had lived in the UK and I had this reoccurring

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Tamara Zoner: thought that I was just stuck because how was I supposed to support three kids

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Tamara Zoner: on my own? Where would we even live.

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Tamara Zoner: And as I just became clearer and clearer on what I needed to do,

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Tamara Zoner: which was to gather that courage to do something more for myself,

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Tamara Zoner: synchronicity played a part.

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Tamara Zoner: So I had gained enough confidence and courage to fight for coming home for a

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Tamara Zoner: visit with my three kids and me, just us, just the four of us.

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Tamara Zoner: My ex, still husband at the time, stayed in the UK where we were living because

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Tamara Zoner: he needed to work and couldn't take the time off.

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Tamara Zoner: And normally I didn't travel without him, but I've, I've fought for this one.

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Tamara Zoner: I was like, I need to go home. I need to see my family.

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Tamara Zoner: I need to see my friends. The kids need to see their family.

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Tamara Zoner: And so he agreed. So we came back to Michigan, August of 2014.

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Tamara Zoner: And after a few days, I noticed myself start to relax.

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Tamara Zoner: Like I wasn't constantly bracing for the next outburst or what I was going to be in trouble for.

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Tamara Zoner: And I started to relax and think, well, wow, here are these people around me

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Tamara Zoner: who say they love me and they act like it too.

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Tamara Zoner: And I was a brand new passion test facilitator at the time. So I had just gotten

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Tamara Zoner: certified as a life coach, as a passion test facilitator.

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Tamara Zoner: And so I wanted to practice my new skills on my family and friends who I hadn't seen in years.

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Tamara Zoner: And I was giving a workshop and like any good abused spouse,

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Tamara Zoner: I had informed my husband exactly what I'd be doing all day long, right?

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Tamara Zoner: I'm not going to be answering my phone for three hours because I will be doing this workshop.

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Tamara Zoner: So the unspoken words were, so please don't accuse me of things I'm not doing, but he did.

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Tamara Zoner: So during the workshop, he called 24 times, 24 times until one of my friends

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Tamara Zoner: picked up my phone and said, Tam, maybe it's an emergency. I think you might

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Tamara Zoner: want to call your husband.

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Tamara Zoner: And so I did. I went and I called him and I was like, is everything okay?

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Tamara Zoner: And he just went on this rampage. And I thought to myself, oh my gosh,

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Tamara Zoner: like here is the biggest sign.

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Tamara Zoner: And if I miss it now, there's no hope for me Because he is showing me exactly who he is.

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Tamara Zoner: And I am thousands of miles away and I don't ever have to go back to that.

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Kevin Lowe: Hmm.

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Tamara Zoner: And so, yeah, over the course of a few days, he demonstrated many ways why I

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Tamara Zoner: did not need to return to that relationship.

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Tamara Zoner: And I was so grateful, you know, as I look back and of course,

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Tamara Zoner: in the moment, it's all scary and it's like, what am I going to do?

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Tamara Zoner: And I don't want to go back to that.

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Tamara Zoner: And parents, could you please let me stay here for a while in your basement

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Tamara Zoner: with my three children? And so I am fortunate in the fact that I had family

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Tamara Zoner: that I could ask for support from.

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Tamara Zoner: And I recognize that not every person has that. And I feel very,

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Tamara Zoner: very grateful and fortunate that I was able to lean on them and have a safe

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Tamara Zoner: place for my children and I to stay.

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Tamara Zoner: And then, you know, suck up my ego and ask for state assistance for a time because

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Tamara Zoner: my ex, as soon as I decided to stay, cut me off from her bank accounts.

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Tamara Zoner: So I had no money, three kids. And I was not so proud that I wasn't willing

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Tamara Zoner: to ask for the social assistance that is available to a lot of us.

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Tamara Zoner: And sometimes we're too proud.

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Tamara Zoner: And so we keep ourselves stuck because we won't ask for help. But I did. And I got it.

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Tamara Zoner: And that helped me get back on my feet and be where I am today,

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Tamara Zoner: which is in a really amazing place.

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Kevin Lowe: Yeah. Wow. It's such a powerful story. and I hope for anyone,

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Kevin Lowe: man or woman listening to this today, who's in a relationship, as you have described,

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Kevin Lowe: I hope that this can be that little spark that they need to hear today,

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Kevin Lowe: that they don't have to stay.

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Tamara Zoner: Me too, because it's only a belief in our mind that we're stuck.

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Tamara Zoner: I held it for so long. I was so attached to the belief that I had to make that

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Tamara Zoner: marriage work, that I was stuck in it, that I could never leave.

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Tamara Zoner: My own parents will celebrate 60 years of marriage in December.

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Tamara Zoner: So I thought I had to make this work, that I just had to deal with life, but that's not living.

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Tamara Zoner: That's not living. And so if anybody listening is feeling stuck,

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Tamara Zoner: like you don't know what to do, you don't have to know how to do it.

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Tamara Zoner: You simply have to decide what you want.

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Kevin Lowe: Yeah.

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Tamara Zoner: I want to feel better.

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Kevin Lowe: Yeah. Wow. Now, after that part had ended and you, you separated,

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Kevin Lowe: you left your husband, you're back at home.

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Kevin Lowe: How do you kind of begin to create a new kind of chapter for you, for your kids?

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Kevin Lowe: How does that all pan out for you?

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Tamara Zoner: One day at a time. And I really got clear on what I wanted my life to look and

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Tamara Zoner: feel like. So I use the very process that I teach.

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Tamara Zoner: So, you know, when my life is ideal, I am able to easily support my children

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Tamara Zoner: in their emotional and physical growth.

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Tamara Zoner: When my life is ideal, I am working in a job or a career that I love that makes

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Tamara Zoner: me feel alive and step by step by step like that.

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Tamara Zoner: So I, of course, I had kids to feed. So I did go, I was a brand new coach.

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Tamara Zoner: So here I had just begun building my business in the UK. And now I was back

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Tamara Zoner: here in Michigan, starting over from scratch.

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Tamara Zoner: And eventually I was like, going to stay true to being a coach and not go get a J-O-B.

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Tamara Zoner: But then I needed to feed my kids. And my parents were like,

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Tamara Zoner: what are you doing, Tam, are you going to get a job?

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Tamara Zoner: And so I started looking for positions that felt good.

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Tamara Zoner: I didn't want to just do anything. I wanted to, for the first time in my life,

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Tamara Zoner: to stay true to me, to stay authentic to me, to stay in integrity,

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Tamara Zoner: because I had been out of it for so long.

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Tamara Zoner: And so by the time I got a call from a senior community, I didn't even remember

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Tamara Zoner: what I had applied for. It had been weeks.

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Tamara Zoner: I was living on, I had state assistance. I had a little bit of savings from a tax return.

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Tamara Zoner: And I finally got this call, went into a senior community to be interviewed

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Tamara Zoner: for whatever position they had open. And I ended up in life enrichment and activities,

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Tamara Zoner: which was a perfect fit for me.

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Tamara Zoner: The place was five minutes from my house. So I could still watch my kindergartner

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Tamara Zoner: get on the bus in the morning, go to work, be on time, even if I left late,

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Tamara Zoner: and then be home in time for him to get back off of that bus.

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Tamara Zoner: Or have my mother, who I was now living with my parents, meet him at the bus if I couldn't be there.

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Tamara Zoner: So it wasn't me working around the clock. It was me still being able to be a

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Tamara Zoner: present parent and have my children at home where I actually grew up,

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Tamara Zoner: which was pretty amazing.

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Tamara Zoner: So it's a big 10 acres of land so they could run and play and I'd have to watch

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Tamara Zoner: them every second. And that was amazing.

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Tamara Zoner: And then I still kept coaching and speaking on the side,

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Tamara Zoner: running workshops here and there, but having fun in senior communities until

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Tamara Zoner: finally I got another call from a friend who there was a full-time director

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Tamara Zoner: of life enrichment position available at another senior community,

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Tamara Zoner: an independent senior community,

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Tamara Zoner: pretty luxury too.

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Tamara Zoner: And so I interviewed for that job and had it within three days.

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Tamara Zoner: And that really, now I was fully on my own feet.

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Tamara Zoner: I was working more, but it was a fun job and it was definitely enriching.

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Tamara Zoner: So one of my rules of life is to do things that light me up.

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Tamara Zoner: I don't think any of us have to struggle through life. If we do,

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Tamara Zoner: that's just our mind lying to us.

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Tamara Zoner: And it's really actually so important that we do things that bring us light

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Tamara Zoner: and joy and love, because that opens up a world of possibilities for us when

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Tamara Zoner: we're in this energy of love.

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Tamara Zoner: Then I think from my personal perspective, like a spirit or source or whatever

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Tamara Zoner: you call that big guy in the sky or don't call, it doesn't matter to me.

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Tamara Zoner: Then that greater being responds like, oh, you're doing good stuff for you here.

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Tamara Zoner: I'll give you some more of it.

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Tamara Zoner: And so life just kept getting more fun and more rich and until COVID hit,

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Tamara Zoner: but that's a whole second segment of the story. Right.

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Tamara Zoner: So I just took one day at a time and really allowed my heart to guide me?

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Kevin Lowe: Yeah. Wow. Now, when I'm listening to you talk about this, the question I have

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Kevin Lowe: when you talk about almost like talking to the person listening today and you

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Kevin Lowe: So many times I think we get stuck in a rut.

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Kevin Lowe: Like when you talk about like following what you really like,

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Kevin Lowe: what you love, your passion is, what lights you up, what is fun.

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Kevin Lowe: I think so many times as adults, we get stuck in the thing of what's it's it's

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Kevin Lowe: the it's our job, whether we like it or not. we go to work, we do the job.

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Kevin Lowe: And there's probably not even anything that most people can say that they have

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Kevin Lowe: as even a hobby that they love or enjoy.

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Kevin Lowe: What do you say to that person?

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Tamara Zoner: Find that hobby. Like a lot of people have forgotten because you're right,

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Tamara Zoner: we're weighed down by all the shoulds of adulthood. We're supposed to do this.

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Tamara Zoner: We have this checklist that we're, you know, we have to get a degree or a good

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Tamara Zoner: job or a career and then a house and then a partner, and then a family.

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Tamara Zoner: And we think this is this prescribed way of being that we have to do the same.

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Tamara Zoner: And so many times, and this is typical of my clients, they get to this point

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Tamara Zoner: where they say, Tamara, I've checked all the boxes and I'm still not happy.

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Tamara Zoner: Well, what is something that used to make you happy? So here's what I encourage

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Tamara Zoner: people to tap into. What used to make you feel happy?

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Tamara Zoner: What lights you up? Maybe you love true crime. Who cares?

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