Show Transcript

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Inside of today's episode, you are going to learn why quitting might just be

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the best decision you've ever made.

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Yes, my friend, I'm not only giving you permission to quit; I'm encouraging

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you to quit. And it's all inside of today's episode.

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So with that, I welcome you to what is episode 348.

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Yo, are you ready to flip the script on life? Because those bad days,

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they're just doors to better days.

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And that's exactly what we do here at Grit, Grace and Inspiration.

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Your host, Kevin Lowe, he's been flipping the script on his own life,

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turning over 20 years of being completely blind into straight up inspiration,

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motivation and encouragement just for you.

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So kick back, relax and let me introduce you to your host, Kevin Lowe.

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You put yourself in the picture. It's 2 a.m. You're working on that project.

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You're working on that business venture, the side hustle, the thing that you've

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been grinding away at. you're burning the midnight candle at both ends.

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At the same point, you can't help but wonder, is this really what success looks like?

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And the truth is, we've all been there. We've all found ourselves pushing through.

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Keep going through the motions because we are determined to make it work.

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We're told you have to work hard. You have to fight for what you want, right?

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Success does not come easy. That's what they tell us.

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And maybe in certain situations, that advice is true. But maybe it's not always

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the case. Because what if that advice, that never quit attitude,

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is exactly what's holding you back in life?

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Today, I want to talk about what I'm calling strategic quitting.

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Strategic quitting, it's not about giving up at the first sign of trouble.

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It's not about you playing it safe either.

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It's not about you not willing to put in the work, but rather it's you being

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able to recognize when something is no longer serving you and you having the courage to walk away.

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I spent seven years grinding away at being a travel agent.

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In 2013, I opened the doors to Better Days Travel.

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And for the next seven years, I did the grind. I put in the work.

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I was burning the candle at both ends until 2020 came.

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And the pandemic, well, it made the choice for me.

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It closed my business, and I didn't even have to make that decision.

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But here's the thing, is I realized something really powerful,

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is that I had been fighting, constantly paddling upstream for the past seven

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years, determined to make this business venture work.

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When I started this podcast and I got started coaching, I got started public speaking.

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It was like I was floating downstream.

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I didn't know where exactly the stream was going to take me,

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but I knew it felt right. I knew I was finally on that right path in life.

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It doesn't have to be hard.

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Now, that doesn't mean that I don't work at my business. Goodness gracious, no.

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I'm working more than most people do. But the fact is true.

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It doesn't have to be difficult. If it's so difficult that you're waking up at 3 a.m.

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Dreading what you're about to endure that day, well, then my friend,

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that's probably a really big sign that it's time for you to quit.

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Because here's the thing. What if by you quitting actually opened the door to something amazing?

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You can't experience new opportunities unless you're willing to give up others.

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To help you put this into action, I want you to get out pen and paper.

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And I want you to write down three things that you're committed to right now.

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Three things that you're working towards, that you're working on in your life.

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Now, next to each of those three items, I want you to write down how they make you feel.

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Does it energize you or does it drain you?

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Does it align with who you are or is it maybe kind of pushing the boundaries a bit?

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If you're looking at that list and you're looking at how it makes you feel and

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you can't really find much good, then, my friend, maybe it's a sign that something needs to change.

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That knot in your stomach that comes when you just start thinking about the

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things you're working on. It's okay.

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Maybe that's just a sign that something's not quite in alignment.

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Life is all about a constant up and down cycle of life.

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I oftentimes refer to life as a roller coaster.

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Sometimes it's big drops. Other times it's the double loop.

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And sometimes it's the slow chug to the top.

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You just have to be real with yourself on what part of that roller coaster you're on.

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If you are on nothing but a constant grind,

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constantly chugging your weight up to the top, and it's not fulfilling you,

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well, then my friend, maybe it's time for you to do something different so that

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you can start coasting downhill a little bit more often.

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It's about you being willing to quit the things that are no longer serving you.

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Only you know what that is. I'm just trying to encourage you to look at life a little bit different.

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Now, when it comes to quitting strategically, let's talk about how to quit strategically.

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First off, it's not about burning bridges, but rather think about it closing doors gently.

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I want you to understand that everything in this life, I believe,

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is constantly working for our good.

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Now, yeah, there's some stuff we go through that's bad, but in the big picture,

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I believe it's all making us a better version of us.

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So I encourage you, when you shut the door on this experience,

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on this opportunity, on this thing that you've been working on,

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I want you to give it the respect it deserves.

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Acknowledge it. Appreciate it for the person that it's made you.

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That it's gotten you one step closer to where you're supposed to be in life.

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The second step is I want you to focus on what you're moving towards rather

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than just what you're leaving behind. You have to remember that quitting something

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that no longer serves you, it's opening up space for things to enter your life that do.

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And so if you're sitting there thinking to yourself that you're just not sure,

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well, imagine the amount of time that you free up in your day if you do quit.

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If it's no longer serving you, if you hate what you're doing,

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if it's draining you, if it's making you show up to life, to the world,

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to your family, is not your best self, then imagine if you just got rid of it, if you just quit.

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The biggest thing I want you to understand about quitting strategically is it's not a failure.

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It's a recalibration. It's you making small little adjustments to make life

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fit you a little bit better.

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So if you are ready to take control of your life and acknowledge the fact that

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this isn't working for me anymore, then my friend, you're one step closer to where you need to be.

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So as we wrap up today's episode, I encourage you to look back at that list

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you made. There's three things that you're working towards.

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And I want you to look at them and figure out if any of them need to be crossed off.

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What is the thing that's holding you back from your truest potential?

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What is the thing that no longer gets you excited? What is the thing that's

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no longer serving you? What is the thing that has you showing up to your family,

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to your work, to life, not as your best self?

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Whatever that is, then my friend, I'm encouraging you to go ahead and quit.

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And I'll leave you with this. Sometimes the bravest thing you can ever do is to walk away.

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You'll never know what new opportunities await on the other side if you never

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have the courage to quit, to let go in pursuit of something more.

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With that, my friend, I hope today's episode inspired you, motivated you,

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maybe empowered you to just quit. If you ever have something that you would

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love to ask me, You would love to reach out to me.

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Check out today's show notes. There's a link where you can send me a private voice message.

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There's also a link where you can book a free 30-minute one-on-one call with

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me where we can sit down and we can just talk about what you're going through.

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We're coming up. It's the end of 2024, entering a new year.

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There's excitement. There's anticipation. And maybe you want to make some big changes in your life.

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Well, hit me up. Like I said, contact info is all in the show notes.

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Send me a voice message, book a time for us to talk. I would love to be able

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to help you out however I can.

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And with that, my friend, I send you out into the world, hoping you have the most amazing day ever.

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Again, I'm Kevin Lowe, and this was another episode of Grit, Grace, & Inspiration.

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Music.