Don't Do Life Alone: It's Time to Find Your Tribe

I'm super excited to have you joining me today as I'm getting to talk to you about the importance of having friends in your life.

Now, I know the trending verbiage for friends is a tribe, but I don't really care what you call it.

I need you to get some people in your life.

Because today's episode is in addition to last Friday's episode.

That was episode 106, where I unpacked my signature life reclamation roadmap.

That was my proven roadmap that I've used in my own life and am now teaching it to you to help you figure out how to move forward in life after suffering tragedy, having adversity, having something happen in your life.

And well, I've created this roadmap to take you along, to help you hopscotch your way along, and ultimately fast tracking you to where you want to be.

If you did not catch the episode that I'm referring to, I would highly encourage you to go back and listen.

It's episode 106, easy way to find it.

Just go to www.thelowdown with Kevinlow.com slash roadmap.

Or if you want to be super simple, you're listening to this podcast.

So click on the episode show notes and there will be a link right there for your convenience.

Now, the reason I'm referencing episode 106 in this roadmap is because there's a part of this journey that I didn't touch on in that episode.

And that is being part of a tribe, having your group of friends to do this journey with.

Because, you know, as much as we may think at times in our life, like, ah, I don't need anybody.

I can do it my own.

I, you know, I don't need no help.

When other people get involved, that's when everything goes wrong.

Plans get screwed up.

I'll just do it my way.

Well, you know, that's cool in a sense, but the reality is we're meant to be together.

We're meant to do life together.

And that's what I want you to think about.

Because today's episode, whether you're calling it your tribe, your friends, your posse, your ride or die buddies, I want today's episode to get you inspired to be doing life with people.

Now, this isn't just anybody.

We're not talking about your social media friends.

Because, I mean, let's face it, if we all said, oh yeah, I've got, you know, 3,572 friends, according to Facebook, well, that's awesome.

Except for 99.9% of them, we don't even know who the heck they are.

We've just agreed to be their friend because, well, we wanted to build our network and make ourselves look a little bit cooler to everybody else, who only has 1,342 friends.

Ha, suckers.

No, I'm talking about real friends, true friends, the kind of friends that you do life with.

These are the kind of friends that I call your ride or die buddies.

They're the ones that when it's 3 a.m.

on a Friday night and everything just went south, they're the ones who you got on your list.

Because you got one call.

You're allowed one call.

Who are you gonna call?

It's that group of friends that I'm talking about.

I need you to focus on figuring out who that group of friends is.

And now let's look back at that roadmap that I taught you about in episode 106.

And man, doesn't it seem a little bit easier now that you realize you're not going through it alone.

You're doing it with people, with your tribe, with your crew, with your ride or die buddies, the people who got your back, that's who you're going through this journey with.

And huh, now it kind of sounds like it's doable, doesn't it?

Well, I should know.

Because I was there, just like you, been through some stuff, had really hard times.

And to be completely honest, all kidding aside, if it wasn't for my family members and those couple of friends, I wouldn't be where I am today.

Because there's no way that I could have done it without them.

Without their support, I just couldn't have.

And so, inside of today's episode, I want you to think hard about who these people are.

And I want you to lean on them when times are tough.

I want you to gather together with them when times are good, and I want you to be sure that you're there for them.

Like I hope they are there for you when you need them.

So let's get rolling into today's episode.

Remember, this is episode 108.

So let's talk about your trap.

Alright, so let's put the question out there right off the bat.

But why do I have to have people to do this with?

I mean, I'm perfectly capable.

I'm a strong, independent, courageous person on my own.

So why, Kevin, are you saying that I gotta now have people?

I have to have this tribe to do it with.

Well, I don't doubt your strength at all.

I don't.

I'm telling you, I don't.

And truth be told, I bet you could do it on your own.

I know that you've been through some stuff in life already that has made you the person you are today.

You're strong, you're independent, you're courageous, just as you already said to me.

But just because you can doesn't mean you should.

Because you know how you know how it's a really good friend, how it's one of these friends that I'm talking about is because when you're in the thick of it, when life sucks, and literally you can do nothing but just be upset, you cry.

You know how it's one of these friends is because these friends don't try to make it better.

They don't try to come up with solutions, they don't tell you it's gonna be okay because they know it's not.

Things suck right now.

And so instead, what they do is they're just there for you.

They're the people who don't try to wipe away your tears, but instead cry right along with you.

They're the people that when it's middle of the night and you wake up, they're the people you want to talk to.

And when you're crying, they're crying too.

And they're right there to tell you that I know, I know it sucks.

Those are the people I'm talking about.

And that's why it is so important to find people to do life with.

Because as I said, even though you can do it, that doesn't mean that you should.

Because I can tell you from my own experience.

After I went blind, it was tough for a really long time.

And there were a lot of nights that all I did was cry.

But you know what?

I had somebody to cry with.

I'd go and get in the bed with my sister, and she would just cry with me.

She didn't try to tell me everything was gonna be okay.

No.

She just met me where I was, and we both cried together.

And that's what I needed at that moment.

She, she's part of my tribe.

She's my crew, she's my sister.

And at that moment, she was the exact kind of person I needed.

I hope that you can find that person or persons to be there for you, like I found for me.

So, kind of following the timeline of the roadmap that I laid out for you in episode 106, my life reclamation roadmap.

Well, the second part of that roadmap is where you start to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

You've moved out of the trauma zone and you're you're cruising down life, you're starting to love life again.

You're, you're, you're seeing the light at the end of the tunnel, hence the name for this section of the roadmap.

Now, this is where your tribe comes into play, is because they get you, they understand you.

These are the people that know you better than you actually know yourself.

Because when somebody asks you, hey, describe yourself to me, you're like, oh, well, like I'm uh 35 years old.

Yeah, because we don't see it about ourselves like other people do.

We don't see ourselves like these people do.

And why this matters is because they're there to support us, to help us guiding us along our path.

Because it's at this point when we're experimenting with life, we're thinking about new things to do, trying out new things.

And as important as it is for us to dip our toe in the waters because we want to and give it a try.

And sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.

It's also cool to have these people there for you who are like, yo, whoa, whoa, whoa, what you doing?

That is totally not you.

I don't know why you think that's gonna work, but that just goes against who you are, man.

You gotta turn around and think of something new.

Or they're the people like, oh my gosh, I know you don't think you're good at this, but this is so for you.

And they encourage you and they build you up to the point that you believe in yourself more than you could have ever believed in yourself if you were alone.

Again, the importance of having this tribe of people doing life with you.

You ever had a bad day?

Yeah.

You know, like I'm talking like a day like, man, this is Friday and it's supposed to be awesome, but man, I swear it's a Monday because ain't nothing gone right.

You know what I'm talking about?

Like you went out to get in the car, realize, boom, tanks on empty.

You run out of gas on the way to work.

You finally get some gas, start going again, then you get caught by the train.

You get past the train, now you're running late for work, you're flying down the road, now you get pulled over by the police.

You know what I'm saying?

Everything's going wrong.

Well, sometimes that's how life goes.

It seems like nothing's going right, or it just seems like life's a little bit stale.

Like we've been traveling down this same road for so stinking long and we're so over it and we're ready for something to happen.

Well, you know what happens then is we got to rely on our crew.

The people that we are doing life with are there to build us up.

If you don't got people that you're surrounded by who are building you up, who are reminding you of where you've been, what you're capable of, and where your life is headed, then that's a sign that you got to find yourself a new crew of people to hang out with.

Because this group of people is there to build you up, to better your life, to improve who you are and where you're going.

That's why I'm not talking about social media friends.

No, these aren't the people that we pick fights with inside of Facebook posts about political views, or because I like dogs better than cats.

No, I'm talking about the people who got your back.

And those people are the ones who you need to remind you, listen, you got this, man.

You've been through so much.

Keep going.

Don't slow down, don't slow down.

They're your team cheering you on.

And that's where you gotta have these people.

Even when things are going good, but it's a little bit stale.

That doesn't mean you should not be having your crew of people to do life with.

As I said, we all need cheerleaders.

We need them to cheer you on, to cheer me on.

I want my people to be like, hey, Kevin, listen, man, you've made it this far.

You're doing the right thing.

Don't give up.

We all need some people to cheer us on.

And what better to do that than the people I'm talking about?

Again, these are your people, your peeps, your tribe, your crew, the ride or die buddies who got your back no matter what.

You ever heard that saying, higher you go, harder you fall, or something to that nature?

Well, life can sometimes feel like that.

When we're flying high, we have that much further to fall when things go wrong.

And that's where you're at the end of the life reclamation roadmap.

You've got the life you've been fighting for, you've been dreaming about.

And we should say that, hey, what do I need anybody for?

Why do I gotta bring people with me?

I'm living life, I'm loving it.

Well, you know what?

Things can happen.

And it's good to have people to have them happen with.

People who there who got your back, the same people who were there with you from the very beginning, the people who were with you at the lowest of times.

I certainly hope you've brought them with you to the best of times also.

Don't forget about the little guys.

I don't care if you feel like you've done so much now, you've overcame so much, you're flying high.

Well, baby, you better bring them right along with you because they are your crew.

They're your people.

They were there for you when the days were long, the nights were so sad, they were there with you.

Don't forget about them because it's life.

And one thing is certain about life, there's gonna be ups and downs.

And when that roller coaster takes a big dip, you're gonna want somebody to hold on to, to scream with, and that same person to be like, hey, don't worry, the rebound is coming.

We're about to swing back up and keep going with life.

That's what it's about to have a crew, to be part of a tribe, to be part of a team.

And so I never want you to get in a mindset that I don't need nobody.

I got this myself.

I can do it.

I'm strong enough.

Look where I've been, look what I've done.

No, no, no, no, no.

Don't get in that mindset.

Not at all.

As they say in sports, there's no I in team.

And it's the same with this.

You need the people that have been there with you to stay with you.

And I'm telling you, like I said earlier, even if you can do it yourself, does that really mean you should?

I don't think so.

I think this life's a whole lot better off with the people that we do it with.

The relationships we make, the friendships we make, the tribe we create.

That's what life is all about.

And that's what I want for you.

So I end today's episode by encouraging you to go out and find that tribe if you don't already have them.

Figure out who are the best of the best, who get you like nobody else gets you.

And I want you to rally around them.

I want you to support them so they support you.

That's what a tribe does.

And when you get those people, I want you guys all to be flying high together.

This is The Lowdown with Kevin Lowe, episode 108.

I hope you have enjoyed today's episode.

And remember, if you ever need help in life, if things are going wrong, check out the episode show notes where you can find my information.

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Let me hear what you got going on.

And let's see if we can't figure out a plan to get you set off on the right path in life.

Again, that's what this podcast is all about is being here to share stories with you, to give you advice from my life, from other people's stories, all in the hope that it helps you to better your life.

Because, well, that's the reason I hope you're listening to this podcast.

Until next time, you just keep living, enjoying life with the people you love and care about the most.

See you next week.