Never Ask. Never Get a Yes! Your Fear of Rejection Is Costing You More Than You Realize

Inside of today's episode, I'm about to show you that your biggest enemy isn't rejection.

It isn't the word no, but instead, it's you never asking in the first place.

My hope is that by the end of today's episode, you will never hesitate again in asking for what you want, for what you dream, what you desire.

Because, my friend, the worst thing you can possibly do is to never ask the question.

This is episode 389 of Great Grace and Inspiration.

I'm, of course, your host, Kevin Lowe, a guy on a mission to be sure that I inspire you, I empower you, I encourage you to take advantage of every single moment you're given on this planet.

Because, my friend, every day is a blessing.

And I want to be sure that you make the most of every second of it.

And today, it all starts by you having the courage, the bravery, the guts to ask the question.

SPEAKER_00: I got grit, grace and inspiration on my mind.

Don't matter storm step, I won't be left behind.

I'm stepping out in place because I'm perfectly designed.

I got grit, grace and inspiration on my mind.

SPEAKER_01: The reason I bring up today's topic is because, well, I was living it out loud.

I was doing what I always do.

I was drinking my morning smoothie, hanging out in the kitchen, getting the day started while listening to one of my favorite podcasts, the Ed Milette Show.

Yes, my friend, if you've been listening to this podcast, you've heard me reference Ed's show before.

And Ed is the man when it comes to some powerful interviews.

Every interview he's ever done has been extraordinary.

But today's interview, the one I was listening to, it just hit different.

His guest had an amazing story, powerful story.

And he's today one of the most biggest in-demand, inspirational, motivational speakers there are.

And while I was listening, though, there was a point in the interview when something just clicked.

Something that screamed to me, you gotta reach out.

And now again, when I'm talking about the Ed Milette show, Ed's show is huge.

The guests he has on are huge.

And this guy was certainly no exception.

So if you want to talk about using that term out of my league, you could say this guest was out of my league.

And yeah, what did I do?

I went ahead and I pulled up his website.

I'm sitting there on the laptop, set the smoothie aside, and started scrolling through his website just to see what else did I need to know about this guy?

What else did I need to learn?

And was there a way to reach out to him?

And now, mind you, people like this, they have a gatekeeper for the gatekeeper.

You want access to them, you got to go through somebody.

And in this case, it's probably gonna be going through somebody who knows somebody who's got somebody else's number.

But instead of letting any of that stop me, you know what I did?

I just asked the question.

I literally found a contact form, a simple contact form.

The very thing that everybody will tell you never waste your time filling out.

Because most of the time, the contact form on a website goes to an email address that isn't monitored, that's often forgot about, and it's nothing but spam.

But that was the one, the easiest way that I found that I could reach out to this person.

So I just thought, what the heck?

Why not?

Why not just send a message and see what happens?

Now, I want to make this one important point before I continue.

When I sent this message, I didn't do so with any expectation.

If you want to say I had expectations, they were next to none.

They were extremely low.

So I just sent it like a one-on-one personable note.

Me, heart to heart, reaching out to a guy who I just listened to on the Ed My Let show and was completely blown away.

And what happened next?

Well, you're gonna have to hold that thought because we're gonna come back to that.

But before we get back to that, I wanna be sure that this is applicable for you so that you be sure that you do not make the mistake of never asking in the first place.

Because if you have been somebody who has failed to ask the question, do you ever wonder why that is?

Well, I feel like it comes down to a couple of different points.

The first, of course, is the fear of rejection.

If we get real and honest, nobody likes to be told no.

Nobody likes the feeling of being rejected, to be led to believe that you're less than or not equal to, that you're not deserving.

So oftentimes that fear of rejection, it keeps us quiet.

It keeps us still.

But one important thing that we forget, and I believe it's something that I hope that if the fear of rejection has been holding you back from ever asking, is that when you're told no, nothing changes.

Because if you think about it, before you asked, you were already at no.

You didn't have what you wanted.

You asked, they say no, nothing gained, nothing lost.

You're still just right where you were.

So just go ahead and ask the question.

Or maybe are you the person who instead of the fear of rejection, you just only assume the worst.

You have led yourself to believe that asking is gonna lead to humiliation.

The person's gonna think I'm an idiot.

They're gonna think I'm so stupid.

They're gonna talk trash about me.

They're gonna tell other people about me asking them out on a date.

Whatever it is, we have this idea of the worst case scenario.

But the fact is that in reality, that's rarely ever the case.

We just assume the worst.

But in actuality, it's oftentimes a much better outcome than we could ever believe.

Or maybe the third scenario, do you just straight up underestimate what is possible?

Some of the most successful people in this world are only where they are today because they had the courage to just ask the question.

Because you never know what is possible when you just ask the question.

You might be wanting one thing, but what you get is something even bigger, something even greater.

So, my friend, again, I encourage you, just ask the question.

Stop being held back.

Stop letting fear and anxiety and worry and doubt rob you of your opportunity to thrive in life.

You have a question, you have a desire, my friend, ask the thinking question.

So, with that said, let's get back to the story.

What happened?

What happened after I press send on that contact form on this person's website?

Did I hear anything?

Did I get a response at all?

Was I completely embarrassed because they responded with some mean response?

No, none of the sort.

Instead, you know what happened?

I got a reply.

Not a week later, that same day.

And here's the thing.

You know who the reply came from?

It didn't come from a company, some big organization booking for this person.

No, it actually came from him, the person, the one who I heard on the Ed My Let show.

This big named person, top motivational, inspirational speaker in the world.

He's the one who responded to me in less than 24 hours.

His message was sincere.

He read it, he understood what I meant, and what he said, it just blew me away.

He recognized my own story, said that I inspired him, and that, yes, he would love to be a guest on my show.

And again, it comes back to the point of today's episode.

If I never asked, then I never would have had the opportunity to get a yes.

Because my friend, if you never ask, you'll never get a yes.

You'll constantly wonder what if.

And if there is one thing that can rob you of joy faster than any other, it is the question of what if.

So, my friend, today, I encourage you to stop asking what if and start asking the question.

Now, who is this guest that I'm talking about?

Well, I'm gonna keep you in anticipation because all you have to do is tune in next week to episode 390 of this podcast.

So be sure that if you have not already hit that subscribeslash follow button inside of the app that you love to listen on.

I'm talking about Apple Podcasts, Spotify, wherever else you love to listen to your podcasts, my friend, be sure that you have clicked that follow button, the subscribe button, so that you're notified next week, which will be on Tuesday, when that interview drops.

I'm telling you, you do not want to miss it.

One of the biggest interviews I've ever done with one of the most amazing people I have ever met, all here to share his insights, his amazing journey he's been on for your benefit.

So, my friend, I leave you with one final word of encouragement to wrap it all up.

If there's something on your heart, if there's something you desire that you want, don't be afraid to ask for it.

There is no harm, no foul, in you simply asking the question.

Because remember, if you never ask, then you'll never get a yes.

Until next time, I'm your host, Kevin Lowe, and this, of course, was another episode of Grit, Grace, and Inspiration.

SPEAKER_00: I will not fear the storm.

My hopes well defined.

I want my faith, not by sight.

I won't fear resigned rising higher every day.