Show Transcript

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Kevin Lowe: Do you ever find yourself looking at life and wondering, wow, things just aren't where I thought they would be?

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Kevin Lowe: Maybe you're just stuck in a rut or maybe you feel like your dreams that you had for your life, they've just vanished.

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Kevin Lowe: Or maybe you're on that never ending hamster wheel of life with one day blending into another.

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Kevin Lowe: Before you know it, the year is gone. But what if you had the power to change that right now, right here?

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Kevin Lowe: Yeah, that's what today is about.

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Kevin Lowe: I'll be exploring an idea with you to have you changing this. For you taking control of your own destiny.

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Kevin Lowe: That's all right here, right now, inside of episode 322.

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Speaker1: Yo, are you ready to flip the script on life because

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Speaker1: those bad days they're just doors to better days and

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Speaker1: that's exactly what we do here at grit grace and

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Speaker1: inspiration your host kevin lowe he's been flipping the script on his own life

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Speaker1: turning over 20 years of being completely blind into straight up inspiration

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Speaker1: motivation and encouragement just for you so kick back relax and let me introduce

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Speaker1: you to your host kevin lowe My friend,

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Kevin Lowe: Welcome back to another episode here on the podcast.

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Kevin Lowe: Today, we're diving into the idea of taking control of your own life, of your destiny.

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Kevin Lowe: By the end, you'll discover how to break free of the past, make bold decisions,

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Kevin Lowe: and start creating the life that you want to live.

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Kevin Lowe: Today's topic was inspired by the amazing journey of Tochtem Thomas.

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Kevin Lowe: Talkdown was featured in our previous episode. An amazing woman who at a very

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Kevin Lowe: young age realized that she was not where she was meant to be.

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Kevin Lowe: And she made some difficult decisions.

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Kevin Lowe: Decisions that I don't know that we as adults have the courage to make.

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Kevin Lowe: But as just a young child, she did. If you did not hear her story,

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Kevin Lowe: I highly encourage you to go back and listen. That was episode 321.

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Kevin Lowe: I'll be sure that a link is left inside of today's show notes to make things easy on you.

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Kevin Lowe: So if Taktum could turn her life around by taking control of her destiny,

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Kevin Lowe: then why can't we do the same for you, for me?

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Kevin Lowe: And that's exactly what today is about.

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Kevin Lowe: For my perfectionists, for my planners, I want you to realize that when we're

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Kevin Lowe: talking about this idea of taking control of your own destiny,

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Kevin Lowe: it's not about you waiting for the perfect time.

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Kevin Lowe: Are you waiting until you have all the answers?

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Kevin Lowe: It's about messy action. It's about you taking action, even when the road ahead is unclear.

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Kevin Lowe: This is about realizing that your past does not dictate your future.

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Kevin Lowe: And that every choice you make from this day forward is moving you towards the

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Kevin Lowe: life that you want, the life that you were made for.

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Kevin Lowe: So the question is, how do you begin to take control to accomplish this monumental task?

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Kevin Lowe: It all begins with one simple question.

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Kevin Lowe: What do I truly want? Not what do others want for me, not what I think I should

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Kevin Lowe: want, but what do you want? What do you want out of life? Who do you want to be?

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Kevin Lowe: What do you want your life to

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Kevin Lowe: be? You don't have to fall victim to what society tells you it should be.

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Kevin Lowe: You don't have to fall victim to social media, letting you believe that life

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Kevin Lowe: needs to look this way or that.

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Kevin Lowe: No, I'm literally talking to you. What do you want your life to be?

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Kevin Lowe: Are you looking for the freedom to go and do as you please?

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Kevin Lowe: Are you looking for stability with a career that you love, but also one that

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Kevin Lowe: you know is going to be there to help you support you and your family?

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Kevin Lowe: What is it that you, yourself, truly want?

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Kevin Lowe: Once you have that clear, and I'm talking crystal clear, then the next step

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Kevin Lowe: is to make a commitment to yourself.

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Kevin Lowe: You have to decide that no matter what, you will take the actions to move towards that vision.

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Kevin Lowe: We're talking about the life that you want here. We're talking about something

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Kevin Lowe: really monumental. mental. We're talking about your future.

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Kevin Lowe: So many times we just get caught up in life and we forget the fact that we only

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Kevin Lowe: get one chance at this life.

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Kevin Lowe: So why aren't we making the most of every single moment we are here on earth?

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Kevin Lowe: Because in the big picture, all the little stuff that we deal with on a day-to-day,

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Kevin Lowe: all the stuff we worry about, if you think about it in the big picture of life,

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Kevin Lowe: It's really not that important.

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Kevin Lowe: Instead, what's important is being sure that you enjoy your time here on earth,

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Kevin Lowe: that you leave an impact if you want to leave an impact,

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Kevin Lowe: that you are remembered for the things that you want to be remembered for,

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Kevin Lowe: for a person, for a woman who lives her life out loud.

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Kevin Lowe: Again, first step, what do you really want out of life? Second step is making

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Kevin Lowe: the commitment to yourself, promising yourself that you're going to pursue that vision.

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Kevin Lowe: For Taktum Thomas, it wasn't easy. It wasn't quick.

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Kevin Lowe: She literally left behind everything she knew in pursuit of something more.

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Kevin Lowe: Taktum, she continued to take small steps, continuous steps.

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Kevin Lowe: Even when she had to make some decisions that were really tough,

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Kevin Lowe: like to leave her family, to embark on a new adventure, a new world of the unknown.

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Kevin Lowe: Because all of that she knew was bringing her closer to the life she envisioned.

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Kevin Lowe: You, my friend, you can do the same. I want you to realize that you deserve

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Kevin Lowe: to have everything you want in this life.

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Kevin Lowe: You deserve to be the person that you want to be. You deserve greatness.

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Kevin Lowe: Then it's all about taking those small steps, all moving towards your goal,

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Kevin Lowe: towards the vision that you want for your life.

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Kevin Lowe: And that doesn't mean that the road is going to be easy.

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Kevin Lowe: No, quite possibly it's going to be really tough because anything that we want

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Kevin Lowe: in life that's really valuable, we really have to work at it.

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Kevin Lowe: Think about back when you were a kid, when you wanted something really nice,

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Kevin Lowe: whatever it was, maybe the newest bicycle when you were a kid,

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Kevin Lowe: the coolest new skateboard.

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Kevin Lowe: And it was too expensive for your parents just to bust out the wallet and pay for you.

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Kevin Lowe: No, they made you earn the money yourself.

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Kevin Lowe: And so you worked for it. You mowed the lawn.

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Kevin Lowe: You washed the cars. You did the chores to earn the money so that you could buy that yourself.

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Kevin Lowe: Again, the road, it's not easy. And if it is easy, then that probably means

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Kevin Lowe: that your dream isn't big enough.

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Kevin Lowe: I want you to remember that taking control of your life, of your destiny,

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Kevin Lowe: it's not about perfection. It's about progress.

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Kevin Lowe: It's about making the choice every day when you wake up to move forward, no matter what.

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Kevin Lowe: You, my friend, you have the strength to overcome your circumstances.

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Kevin Lowe: Now, I understand life is tough and I understand sometimes we feel stuck and

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Kevin Lowe: maybe for a little little bit of time. Maybe we are.

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Kevin Lowe: Maybe you are. But there comes a point when you're not stuck,

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Kevin Lowe: when you can make a decision, even if it's a hard decision, to move forward, to get unstuck.

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Kevin Lowe: And just like Tocqueville, you have the strength to overcome your circumstances.

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Kevin Lowe: Now, I understand that sometimes we're in a situation in life that is difficult.

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Kevin Lowe: And yeah, maybe for a period of time, you're stuck in it.

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Kevin Lowe: It's just kind of how life is. But then there comes a point when you know that

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Kevin Lowe: you are ready to move forward, that you're ready to overcome it.

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Kevin Lowe: You're ready to break down the barriers.

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Kevin Lowe: You're ready to keep moving forward in life. When you're ready for that,

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Kevin Lowe: that's when you're ready to create a life that you're excited about, that lights you up.

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Kevin Lowe: Because remember, if you're the artist and you're painting the picture of your

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Kevin Lowe: future, don't you want to paint the most beautiful painting you've ever seen?

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Kevin Lowe: Of course you do. So if you are the creator of your destiny, of your future,

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Kevin Lowe: then you better be darn sure that you're creating a future that you want,

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Kevin Lowe: that you're excited about.

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Kevin Lowe: That word, excited, excitement, it's something that I feel like isn't focused on enough in life.

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Kevin Lowe: Maybe it is for children, but as adults, it's almost like excitement.

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Kevin Lowe: Oh my goodness, that's just for kids. But my friend, no, it is for all of us. You need to have a life.

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Kevin Lowe: You need to have goals, dreams, ideas that get you excited, that you wake up

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Kevin Lowe: in the morning with excitement running through your veins for what you are about

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Kevin Lowe: to do that day, what you are working towards.

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Kevin Lowe: Now, I want you to remember this. It starts small. So what I mean is as you

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Kevin Lowe: go throughout your day today, day.

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Kevin Lowe: I want you to think about one part of your life that you can start taking control of.

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Kevin Lowe: What area of your life do you feel like you're out of control?

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Kevin Lowe: What area of life do you need more focus, more direction?

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Kevin Lowe: Maybe that's the best place for you to start. Then identify the next step you

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Kevin Lowe: can take that is going to be moving you closer to that life you envision,

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Kevin Lowe: to your ultimate destiny, to where you want life to be.

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Kevin Lowe: This is about you being in the driver's seat of life, my friend. You are in control.

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Kevin Lowe: The whole thing, but today is I just want so many times here on the podcast

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Kevin Lowe: to just remind you that there's so much more to life than any of us think,

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Kevin Lowe: that there's so much more to you than you believe. leave.

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Kevin Lowe: And that ultimately, I believe that you deserve all that you want in this life.

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Kevin Lowe: I said that earlier today, and I've said it in many episodes, because I believe it.

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Kevin Lowe: I believe that so many times that you, me, we all seem to forget about our dreams.

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Kevin Lowe: We seem to put away way there's big ideas.

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Kevin Lowe: But here, I want to be that inspiration to have you dreaming big.

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Kevin Lowe: To thinking like a child, thinking of the possibilities with no negativity in sight.

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Kevin Lowe: This is your life. You only get one chance at it.

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Kevin Lowe: So my friend, I hope, I pray that you make it account.

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Kevin Lowe: Until next time, I'm your host, Kevin Lowe, and this was another episode of

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Kevin Lowe: Grit, Grace, and Inspiration.

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Music.